When it comes to cheating, they say a woman’s intuition can almost always tell, even if they have no evidence. Whether that’s a gut feeling in the pit of their stomach or a literal avocado pit that exposes their significant other’s infidelity. The latter may be rare, but not impossible, if this woman’s story of how she caught her boyfriend cheating is anything to go by.
In a viral TikTok, Cat (@cat_cat) shares a storytime detailing how her favorite fruit, an avocado, confirmed her boyfriend was unfaithful. Her 6-minute clip has earned more than 7.4 million views as of Friday.
She had been dating her boyfriend for 7 and a half years, she says, when they entered a “weird roommate phase.” Cat was unperturbed, however, certain they would work things out. This occurred in November—Cat says timing is important to the story—and eventually, they decided to go on a month-long break.
The boyfriend would move upstairs into a friend’s empty apartment while they “figured things out.”
Cat didn’t need that long.
“I only needed a week to decide I no longer wanted to be with a man-child,” she says. This led to the “most chill breakup ever.”
Cat says she left for Atlanta for a girls’ trip and told him to move his stuff out while she was gone. Apparently, four days weren’t enough because when Cat returned, he had only moved out a few pieces of clothing.
Annoyed, Cat threw all his belongings into trash bags—which she says took all of 6 minutes—and hauled them upstairs to the apartment he was staying in. Little did she know she would find evidence that would explain her relationship’s rough patch.
An Avocado Tells All
Cat entered the apartment where her now-ex-boyfriend was staying and noticed something incriminating on the counter.
“Immediately, I know that something’s off,” Cat says. “Like that intuition, like that gut feeling.”
Cat walked over to the kitchen island and saw a “half-eaten avocado.” She reveals how avocados are her favorite food, and she probably eats one almost every day. Her ex, on the other hand, hated them.
“And I said, ‘I know who’s been here,’” Cat shares. “Immediately, I knew.”
To confirm her suspicions, which Cat admits she wasn’t proud of, she read his diary. Within the pages holding her ex’s most private thoughts, she found an entry days after the breakup. In it, he admitted he was in love with his co-worker.
Cat says she understands they had been broken up for a week. Still, “you do not fall in love with somebody in three days of breaking up with your girlfriend of 7 and a half years.”
She reveals how he had mentioned he had asked said co-worker for relationship advice while they were breaking up. Cat thought it was fishy but didn’t address it or care. That is, until she found out her ex had gone to the co-worker numerous times since November for relationship advice.
“She used that as an in, and now they are together,” Cat says.
‘You Cannot Rationalize Emotional Cheating’
Cat lets her male viewers know that emotional cheating is still cheating, even if her ex and the co-worker didn’t sleep together.
“Falling in love with somebody while you are going to your home and sharing a bed with somebody that you claim to be in love with is disgusting and gross and rude and disrespectful,” Cat says. She thanks them both for freeing her from being with that man and concludes that she does not regret tearing apart his Legos.
Is Emotional Cheating Real Cheating?
In short, yes. Emotional cheating is very real and can be as devastating as the “physical cheating” everyone is familiar with. While relationship experts say having a small crush outside the relationship or light flirting here and there is nothing to be super concerned about, there is danger when one crosses a line.
An article by the Cleveland Clinic describes emotional cheating as “a type of emotional affair that involves developing a close, emotional connection with someone other than your partner without fully disclosing the existence of that connection.”
The article states that it becomes cheating when you build an emotional bond with someone else until it eventually disrupts your current relationship.
There is an important distinction between emotional cheating and just having emotional connections with people outside the relationship. For example, you should have bonds with friends and co-workers as well as meaningful conversations with your therapist. However, the article shares a “test” you can do to check for emotional cheating.
- Would you feel comfortable sharing details of your relationship and conversations you have? If you hide conversations and social media posts that this person shares, chances are it’s infidelity.
- Do these interactions support or harm your relationship? If your romantic partner takes a backseat to this other bond, “perhaps something has changed in the emotional dynamics of your relationship.”
Viewers Are On Cat’s Side
Many applauded Cat for her decision to leave.
“‘Emotional cheating is still cheating’ THANK YOU. THANK. YOU,” one top comment read. Another added, “A woman’s intuition NEVERRRRRR lies.” One user put a positive spin on her breakup, writing, “She didn’t take your man, she took your problem.”
To once again reiterate how she found out, she spelled it out for the confused commenters: “To be clear for confused people: he hated avocados so i knew someone else had been there and i already had a suspicion that this coworker had feelings for him.”
BroBible reached out to Cat via TikTok direct message.